Your desires can conflict with the desires of society for you.  For instance, some young women fall prey to placing efforts in the direction of marriage by a certain age.  She may find herself thwarted in her attempts.  But on closer inspection, she may find that marriage is not what she wants at all.  The mind works by what is actually on it and not on what a person says is on it.  Gayatri Deshmukh believes that the kind of clarity necessary for this can be achieved by meditation.