In South Africa, about 49% of all female homicides are perpetrated by their spouses. This means that of every woman that was murdered in South Africa, almost half of them were killed by their boyfriends/husbands. But again the issue is not only about the murder of women (which is the most pressing social problem in our communities today), it’s about the jealousy, the abuse, the insecurities, the entitlement and all the toxic traits that men uniquely bring into a relationship that have a common tendency to endanger the lives of the women they claim to love. Today we talk about being a spouse, a lover, a partner. How do we get this right? 

Tshegofatso Pule, Karabo Mokoena, Reeva Steenkamp, Kgaugelo Tshauwane are women who all suffered the same fate- being murdered by their spouses. Murder, though all-too common in South Africa, is the ultimate crime but it is symptomatic of deep seated problematic patriarchal norms in our society. We unpack them, specifically with regards to relationships. What toxic traits do men bring into relationships ordinarily? What do men feel like they’re entitled to? Why are the people who are closest to men in active physical danger? All of these questions we ask to boyfriends. 

In this episode, we invited Busi Mkhumbuzi Pooe (who’s married to Thami) and Dr Tumelo Mashatola (who’s dating Tumi) to unpack and share their experiences in dating these gents. 

Music By

OneTone (Soulful Old School Hip Hop Instrumental [Free Download])– https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bepsKUEALlE 

Hosts 

Bongani Frank Masilela- https://www.linkedin.com/in/bongani-frank-masilela-479421119/ 

Boitumelo Mpakanyane- https://www.linkedin.com/in/boitumelo-mpakanyane-69b319137/ 

Boikanyo Pooe- https://www.linkedin.com/in/thami-pooe/ 

Guest(s)

Tumelo Mashatola

Busi Mkhumbuzi Pooe