There are two types of control fallacies we may be experiencing that is influencing our perception & internal story:

(1) We view ourselves as the helpless victim of our circumstances, where we have no control over anything and everything is happening *to* us.

(2) We view and hold ourselves as responsible for everyone else's pain and happiness. 

In both cases, we have an irrational perception on our control over the situations in our lives (either too little or that we control everyone and everything).