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Mental Toughness Training


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Thoughts on what it means to be mentally tough.




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Mental Toughness Training.



Hi I'm Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live.



How do you become mentally tough?



This is an issue and it's one of those things I'll probably read some more upon and come back to this in later episodes. But I wanted to kind of give you my perspective for now.



As a kid, you tend to hear, especially as a male child growing up, you tend to hear suck it up, you know, suck it up and deal with it. You know, that's kind of the idea behind mental toughness, but at the same end, there's more to be mentally tough than just deal with it. Because we're usually not taught, we're certainly not taught in schools and in most cases not taught by our parents, how to be mentally tough.



I had some examples, but they were never direct examples. So my grandfather, my father, both had their own ways of dealing with things. And through their life example, I learned ways of being mentally tough, but it was never discussed directly that I can remember.



What it really comes down to, I think is this conversation of mental toughness.



We talk a lot about business here on this show so I'll tie it in as we go along here but this is a life kind of a life lesson.



If what toughness really comes down to is resilience. And that resilience comes from realizing what makes you less tough.



What brings weakness?



And we don't talk about that either. We never talk about, you know, what makes a person weak on the inside is mental toughness, no one talks about mental weakness.



Weakness is I think, the bigger issue if you you will be tough if you can keep from being weak. And if you know what causes mental weakness, that can change your whole life, if you learn how to handle it properly.



And what I have found is that most of my mental weakness was self-inflicted. It was always based on circumstances. So it's based on this process of victimhood that we put ourselves through were some situation is causing me great pain and agony or stress, depression, some person or people are causing me horrible situations in my life.



It's always someone or something else's fault, some cataclysmic event, whatever it is, there's always something else outside that is causing the issues inside.



But a huge part of mental toughness is just understanding that how you react mentally, spiritually, everything else, inside how you internally react to whatever is occurring outside is your responsibility.



This comes back to this conversation that I've had previously where there's a big difference between fault and responsibility. So a lot of things can be other people's fault. circumstances, yeah, 99% of all circumstances in the world are someone else's fault. They're not your fault. You know, it was their fault.



In fact, a whole lot of things that happened to you throughout your life are not your fault. They really are. They're not your fault.



You know, you didn't get to choose your parents getting choose your name, getting into choosing your genetics, you didn't get to choose your race, your religion, oftentimes, a lot of these things you don't get to choose, you get raised up in it, and that raising up in those circumstances make you who you are from that point forward.



So a whole lot of how you react to things, how you are based, it's all someone else's fault, and that's okay.
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