In this powerful episode of Mess to Badass, Pam dives deep into the infamous phrase that has haunted generations of women: “Calladita te ves más bonita” (You look prettier when you’re quiet).

This seemingly innocent saying is rooted in machismo and has been used for centuries to silence women, forcing them to prioritize appearance over self-expression. Pam unpacks the history behind this mindset, shares personal stories of growing up in a culture steeped in Marianismo, and highlights how these ideals continue to affect women today.

But this isn’t just about pointing out the problem—it’s about reclaiming our voices, breaking free from societal expectations, and turning the messiness of life into our superpower.

Whether you’re a Latina navigating the pressures of cultural expectations or anyone who’s felt the weight of being told to “be quiet,” this episode will inspire you to speak up, rewrite the rules, and embrace your messy, badass self.

Sources

Pew Research Center Stats on Latina Women – Visit Website

Madres de Plaza de Mayo

Mexican women fight for justice

Recommended Books on Feminism and Latinx Culture:

• Borderlands/La Frontera by Gloria Anzaldúa
• Feminism is for Everybody by bell hooks

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It’s 2025, besties! New year, same chaos—but this time, we’re flipping the script. Forget the guilt-ridden, impossible resolutions that fizzle by February. Instead, we’re diving into something way more badass: being unapologetically you.

In this episode, we’re calling out the toxic “New Year, New You” narrative and tossing it straight in the trash. 🗑️ Why? Because you don’t need to be “fixed”—you’re already incredible, mess and all.

💥 What You’ll Love in This Episode:

• A hilarious breakdown of why resolutions suck (spoiler: they’re like a drunk ex—tempting but disappointing).
• A pep talk on choosing authenticity over perfection—because Pinterest-perfect is overrated.
• Relatable AF stories about failed goals (hello, 5 a.m. meditation) and how to rewrite the rules.
• Permission to set messy, meaningful goals that actually light you up.

Plus, you’ll get interactive moments (DM me your floppiest resolutions!), a few laughs, and a whole lot of encouragement to own your messy magic in 2025.

✨ Key Takeaway: Perfection is boring; progress is badass. Let’s celebrate every small win and embrace the chaos together.

🎉 Ready to make 2025 the year you stop apologizing for who you are and start owning your power? Hit play, follow Mess to Badass, share this episode with your messy BFFs, and tag us @MessToBadass on Instagram with your badass goals for the year.

Teaser: Next episode? We’re diving deep into cultural conditioning with Calladita Te Ves Más Bonita. Trust me, it’s gonna get REAL.

Stay messy, stay amazing, and let’s own this year together. Besitos! 😘

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🎙️ Mess to Badass is back with a brand-new season! 🎉

This time, we're diving headfirst into adulting—how hard it can be, how messy it gets, and how to turn that mess into your ultimate superpower. 💪✨

💌 Wanna be part of the show? Hit me up at [email protected] with your gossip, burning questions, or messy life dilemmas. I’ll bring in an expert (or a badass friend) to tackle it together.

Mess to Badass is all about building a community for anyone who feels messy, struggles with adulting, or just doesn’t fit in—and is totally fine with it. Our mission? To embrace the chaos, own our flaws, and turn them into the kind of strength that makes us unstoppable. Because let’s face it: life doesn’t come with a manual, but you don’t need it to be a total badass.

Expect episodes packed with sarcasm, humor, tough love, and some real talk. From deep reflections to laugh-out-loud moments, we’re here to ride the rollercoaster of adulting together. Life’s messy, but that’s where the magic happens. So, buckle up and let’s turn our struggles into strength—one badass episode at a time. 🎧🔥

Martha Ramos is an amazing woman who had a corporate job making six figures, and an amazing lifestyle until she realized how unhappy she was even though she had amazing opportunities through her corporate job. In this episode, she talks about some personal struggles she has gone through since she was a teenager, from emancipating from her parents to being broke to make her dream come true of having her own business, and realizing that peace of mind is better than making tons of money.

This is A MUST LISTEN episode specially if you are having a shitty day, we will make you smile and bring some joy to your day.

This might be one of my favorite episodes. I am interviewing one of my fave women, Jess Wilson is a remote photographer and founder of JWilsonPix. There are going to be tons of laughs and giggles. I promise you will enjoy it.

Jess likes to call herself “An Organized Hot Mess Express”, because she likes to keep her life organized. However, she is a mom, grandma, business owner, wife, cleaning lady for her house, in charge of laundry, poop cleaner, etc. All of these stuff makes her human, real, messy and she is proud of all of it.

In this episode, we talk about social media and finding the right platform that works for you, giving permission to be messy, imposter syndrome, and tons of real situations that will make you feel good about yourself.

We also talk about breaking “The I Give a Fuck” Button and what does that mean.

If you feel shy in front of people but need some branded pictures for your biz or life, you must schedule a session with Jess

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I swear we are not drunk. When we get together we have so much fun and get to be ourselves while having fun and serious conversations.

I do want to warn you that we will be talking about poop and other bodily fluids.

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In this episode, we talk about the reasons why people that work from home and entrepreneurs are struggling with depression and loneliness. We also talk about the difference between remote work and working from home. Lastly, we talk about 5 tips that can help you overcome depression and loneliness.

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Meet Casey Jourdan, a podcaster, self-trust coach, veteran, and absolute badass! In this episode, Casey talks about her battle with anxiety, depression, and infertility. The realization is that not everybody fits the traditional method of coaching because they target a specialty, and many multi-passionates do not fit in that mold. How diversifying and having "more tools in your toolbox" can make you more powerful.

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We had some technical difficulties during this recording and per usual I am giving you all for you to meet Danielle, the founder of Her Messy Bun shares tons of lessons about her entrepreneurial journey, the shitty moments, and moments that she hasn’t shared with anybody before.

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In this episode I have Souligna Stone, the owner of Stone Media Source, she is known as the strategic Brand AcceleratorTM an expert in corporate marketing, sales, employee relations, communications, social media, and leadership development. Souligna knows how to get your people and products/services noticed in your marketplace to produce massive results. Souligna is also a mom and an awesome friend. In this episode, we get a little personal, she talks about mistakes she has made during her transition of leaving her corporate job to become an entrepreneur. How she has learned to embrace her mess and how much she loves being messy. 

Trigger warning: In this episode, we talk a little bit about depression and suicide.

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 IG:@stonemediasource / @souligna_stone 

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