“When things do not go as we expect or we are surprised by events that alter the order of our lives, what we can learn from the situation? Learning shifts us from victims to creators, allowing us to adapt and cultivate a resilient attitude toward change, loss, and transition.” - Valentina Marin: 4 ways to practice Wabi Sabi, the Japanese secret of happiness 

Check motives. The reason behind why you do things. Things happening to us and through us happen for a reason, and that reason usually come from some sort of motive on all parties part.

A person coming to you a certain way is usually the result of a mindset and motive shift in thinking. Also, the way you respond to them will take a mindset and motive shift in thinking to intentionally make it positive.