Points i extracted from selfhelp books 

• stay in the present - it will build your future and can prevent being in a regret circle from past

• journaling helps coping with instant overthinking

• distance from your ego. when you feeling low or misunderstood, imagine yourself in a bubble, pushing your feels to the outside and watch what others inside their bubbles might need

• participate joy in small steps to your desired result

• develop a strong moral compass to find like minded people

• dont waste to much time being angry, it holds control over how you will react in the future

• building routines makes you free to do things on autopilot while thinking or doing something else

• rethink if you might be wrong , your past perspective could need new input

• watch your point of view: am i argumenting cause i (dont) like the other person?