Be the Change in Your Marriage

Momentum Goes Both Ways


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When we roll through the experience of noticing our blessings and feeling those feelings of enjoying, cherishing, and holding gratitude for what we have, we are strengthening the electromagnetic pull for additional enjoyment, cherishing and gratitude. We can feel it building upon itself as we consciously hold it, examine it and relish it.

The snowball is an old metaphor, but for a reason, so don’t skip over it. Live into the snowball with me for a moment. The beauty in our lives, and our sense of it, sticks to itself, packs it on, gathers momentum and becomes larger and larger. Do you feel that? It is a real universal law. And it goes BOTH WAYS. Can you picture a snowball rolling back and forth in something of a concave cradle? Imagine that the cradle is settled into the top of a mountain, and on one side is the pull of your joy, and on the other is the pull of your despair.

You are the snowball. You are rolling back and forth in this container, and one thought is ready to tip you over the top and send you careening down one side of the mountain or the other, packing on either the happiness or the despair. The negativity also gets sticky and packs more of itself on. In just the way you can use one piece of Play-Doh® to press and pick up all the other little crumbs of it your kids left on the table, one sticky negative thought puts feelers out for another, until your whole emotional windshield is splattered with squashed bugs and you can’t see a blessed thing. (Me and my mixed and also excessive metaphors. Apologies🙄)

Just last week, my little snowball started tumbling down the bad side. It happens. And we need to bring our awareness to it. I had encountered a lull in my business, and my belief in myself and my future was gradually eroding. My optimism had dialed back and my positive snowball had settled into a plateau, leaving me vulnerable. I was teetering, and began a slow negative roll.

Thoughts about just how goshdarn hard everything was, became very sticky, and piled on. Now when I looked at my husband, the little things that disappointed me were more glaring. It was as if my negatively charged ions were attracting his negatively charged characteristics. I’m just making stuff up, beauties, I know nothing about science, but I could observe what was happening inside me. (No, we don’t have a perfect marriage, but we are perfectly committed to working things through, which is better than perfect, as it’s an ideal container for growth. Anyway…) When we needed to make some logistical adjustments that left me with less effective work time, I found myself weeping. You can hear the rest of the story in this episode. Thanks for staying with me this far,

Beautiful, I am so excited about what I am building for you behind the scenes right now. I have definitely switched to positive momentum and it’s spiraling! In the next couple of months I will have something amazing to offer you, so please stay tuned for updates. If you're not on my email list, please sign up here so you don't miss a thing!

You deserve all the love and happiness you can hold. ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹


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Be the Change in Your MarriageBy Summer Cox