Money is not a source of contention in a relationship, but we think it is because it exposes the dissonance between us. I know you think money is an issue in your relationship, but I promise it's not the money. The money is simply revealing something about the partnership. The solution starts with 1) honesty about our individual desires and motivations, 2) kindness toward our significant other, and 3) refusing to perpetuate parent/child dynamics.