In this episode, Mariette Frey guides listeners through a reflective exercise to clarify their dreams and identify the mental barriers that may be holding them back. She emphasizes the importance of understanding your identity, giving yourself permission to dream, and challenging limiting stories to create a path toward personal growth.

Dreams Part 1 Reflection Exercise:

1. What story are you telling yourself about yourself?

2. Are you the hero of that story, or is it full of doubt?

3. What evidence do you have that the opposite of that story might be true?

4. If you gave yourself full, unconditional permission to dream, what identity would you step into?

5. What does your future self look like — not just physically, but in posture, energy, and presence?

6. How does your future self act on a daily basis?

7. What habits, routines, or choices anchor that version of you?

8. What is stopping you from becoming that version of yourself right now?

9. Is that obstacle really true, or is it an assumption you’ve been carrying?

Bonus question:

What are you trying to prove, and who are you trying to prove it to?

Resources Mentioned:

- You Make Sense with Sarah Baldwin — “The Formula for Growth: Why Discomfort is Required for Your Expansion” episode:

https://www.youtube.com/ ⁨@youmakesense⁩ 

- Finding Freedom with Peter Crone: https://www.youtube.com/ ⁨@PeterCroneOfficial⁩ 

Chapters

00:00 Welcome Back to Dreams Part 1

01:05 Why These Questions Matter

02:10 Your Identity Has Different Parts

03:20 Discomfort Is the Compass

03:52 Question 1: What Story Are You Telling Yourself?

05:14 Question 2: What Identity Would You Step Into?

06:42 Question 3: What Does Future You Look Like?

07:28 Question 4: How Does Future You Act Daily?

09:37 Question 5: What Is Stopping You Right Now?

11:04 Is That True, or Just an Assumption?

12:39 Pivoting Is Growth, Not Failure

13:20 Bonus Question: What Are You Trying to Prove?

14:08 Stay in the What, Not the How

14:53 What’s Coming in the Final Dreams Episode

15:45 Meet Cooper + Smart Move Society Invitation

Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/

Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching

Favorites: https://https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariettesonthemove

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/

Interviews from Seasons 1-3 on YouTube: / @mariettesonthemove

Moving For Smarties, hosted by Mariette Frey of Mariette’s On The Move, started as an interview-driven podcast exploring the real stories behind relocation, reinvention, and life transitions. Across 60+ conversations with first-time homebuyers, repeat movers, industry experts, and everyday people navigating major life changes, this show opens the curtain on what moving is really like—from the joyful and exciting to the unexpected, chaotic, and downright overwhelming.

In the first 60 episodes, the show dives into the human side of moving: identity shifts, decision-making, financial realities, emotional resilience, community building, and the brave moment when someone decides, “It’s time to go.” These episodes are long-form, honest, and full of lived experience you won’t find in a checklist.

Moving forward, we're excited to bring you the more educational, structured, step-by-step side of relocation, and changing our name to Moving For Smarties. This show is built as a bingeable class on YouTube and we're making it available everywhere you listen as well. We take the full FRED Framework journey (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through curated playlist paths that guide your decision-making from the ground up.

Both shows work together:

• (The old) Mariette’s On The Move = re

This episode encourages listeners to release old dreams with gratitude and embrace new paths aligned with their true purpose. Mariette shares her personal journey of pursuing her dreams, the detours she took, and how evolving passions can lead to fulfillment.

Great Exercise:

Write down a detour from your life and ask: What did it teach me? What skills did I gain from it? And what dream can I release with gratitude so I can move forward?

I mentioned my friend Ang Barnard in this podcast, please follow her! Here's her website: https://www.angbarnard.com/podcast and you can find her podcast there!

I also mentioned Silk & Sonder. You can check them out here! https://www.silkandsonder.com/

Chapters:

00:00 When ambition feels heavy instead of exciting

00:53 Welcome to Episode 4 of the Dreams Playlist

01:15 The childhood dream I buried under practicality

02:27 The Los Angeles trip that reignited my acting dream

03:39 Switching my major to keep the dream alive

04:38 Taking acting classes while working a 9-to-5

05:46 The layoff that gave me space to explore acting

06:55 Getting on set for Chicago Fire, Chicago PD, and auditions

07:44 Realizing the acting dream wasn’t what I imagined

08:29 How the dream evolved instead of disappeared

09:07 The dream that feels heavy may need to evolve

09:50 Your coaching exercise: what did the detour teach you?

10:38 Releasing an old dream is not giving up

11:08 What’s coming next: questions to sharpen your dream

11:50 Smart Moves Society and final sign-off

Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/

Coaching: https://movingforsmarties.com/coaching

Favorites: https://https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites

Instagram: @mariettesonthemove

LinkedIn: / mariettefrey

Interviews from Seasons 1-3 on YouTube: / @mariettesonthemove

Moving For Smarties, hosted by Mariette Frey of Mariette’s On The Move, started as an interview-driven podcast exploring the real stories behind relocation, reinvention, and life transitions. Across 60+ conversations with first-time homebuyers, repeat movers, industry experts, and everyday people navigating major life changes, this show opens the curtain on what moving is really like—from the joyful and exciting to the unexpected, chaotic, and downright overwhelming.

In the first 60 episodes, the show dives into the human side of moving: identity shifts, decision-making, financial realities, emotional resilience, community building, and the brave moment when someone decides, “It’s time to go.” These episodes are long-form, honest, and full of lived experience you won’t find in a checklist.

Moving forward, we're excited to bring you the more educational, structured, step-by-step side of relocation, and changing our name to Moving For Smarties. This show is built as a bingeable class on YouTube and we're making it available everywhere you listen as well. We take the full FRED Framework journey (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through curated playlist paths that guide your decision-making from the ground up.

Both shows work together:

• (The old) Mariette’s On The Move = real conversations and lived experiences.

• (The new) Moving For Smarties = the coaching, tools, and frameworks to help you make a values-aligned move.

Whether you’re preparing for a move, considering a major life shift, or simply love hearing the behind-the-scenes stories of people rebuilding their lives, you’re in the right place.

For deeper support, join The Smart Move Society, a community that offers group coaching, 1:1 coaching options, workshops, and city-focused guidance to help you relocate with confidence. Find it on our website.

Thank you for stopping by!

Mariette Frey guides you through transforming scattered notes into clear themes that define your future self. Learn how to identify your core anchors—community, health, creativity—and use them to make aligned decisions for a fulfilling life. This is from the Moving For Smarties YouTube Channel.

Chapters

00:00 From Notes to Themes: Building Future You

02:45 Identifying Your Anchors: The Power of Patterns

05:23 Creating Your Future Avatar: A Vision for Tomorrow

08:05 Naming Your Dreams: Turning Themes into Action

Moving For Smarties, hosted by Mariette Frey of Mariette’s On The Move, started as an interview-driven podcast exploring the real stories behind relocation, reinvention, and life transitions. Across 60+ conversations with first-time homebuyers, repeat movers, industry experts, and everyday people navigating major life changes, this show opens the curtain on what moving is really like—from the joyful and exciting to the unexpected, chaotic, and downright overwhelming.

In the first 60 episodes, the show dives into the human side of moving: identity shifts, decision-making, financial realities, emotional resilience, community building, and the brave moment when someone decides, “It’s time to go.” These episodes are long-form, honest, and full of lived experience you won’t find in a checklist.

Moving forward, we're excited to bring you the more educational, structured, step-by-step side of relocation, and changing our name to Moving For Smarties. This show is built as a bingeable class on YouTube and we're making it available everywhere you listen as well. We take the full FRED Framework journey (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through curated playlist paths that guide your decision-making from the ground up.

Both shows work together:

• (The old) Mariette’s On The Move = real conversations and lived experiences.

• (The new) Moving For Smarties = the coaching, tools, and frameworks to help you make a values-aligned move.

Whether you’re preparing for a move, considering a major life shift, or simply love hearing the behind-the-scenes stories of people rebuilding their lives, you’re in the right place.

For deeper support, join The Smart Move Society, a community that offers group coaching, 1:1 coaching options, workshops, and city-focused guidance to help you relocate with confidence. Find it on our website.

Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/

Favorites: https://https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites

Instagram: @mariettesonthemove

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mariettesonthemove

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@movingforsmarties

Caution- this is a guided visualization exercise *Do Not Listen While Driving*

In this episode of Moving for Smarties, host Mariette Frey guides listeners through a transformative visualization exercise aimed at helping them connect with their future selves. The session emphasizes the importance of picturing one's future to begin the journey towards achieving dreams. Through deep breathing and vivid imagery, listeners are encouraged to explore their aspirations, feelings, and environments, ultimately leading to a deeper understanding of their desired future. The episode concludes with practical tips on documenting these insights and using AI tools to visualize their future selves more concretely.

Takeaways

• Visualization is key to moving towards your dreams.
• Deep breathing helps clear the mind for meditation.
• Engaging the senses enhances the visualization experience.
• Writing down details solidifies the vision in your mind.
• Your future self can guide your current decisions.
• Neuroscience supports the power of visualization.
• Keeping notes allows for reflection and growth over time.
• AI tools can help create a visual representation of your future self.
• The process of visualization is a journey, not a destination.
• Trust the process and focus on what you want to achieve.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Guided Visualization

03:41 Entering the Visualization

10:01 Reflecting on the Visualization

12:53 Building Your Future Self

Shout Outs From Episode:

• Find Whitney Uland and all her coaching https://linktr.ee/whitneyuland?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=7fd93005-29d0-4ff6-8ac4-517dc6175213
• Awesome Meditation Music with Binaural Beats by Siarhei_Korbut, support them at https://www.tinevibe.com

Moving For Smarties, hosted by Mariette Frey of Mariette’s On The Move, started as an interview-driven podcast exploring the real stories behind relocation, reinvention, and life transitions. Across 60+ conversations with first-time homebuyers, repeat movers, industry experts, and everyday people navigating major life changes, this show opens the curtain on what moving is really like—from the joyful and exciting to the unexpected, chaotic, and downright overwhelming.

In the first 60 episodes, the show dives into the human side of moving: identity shifts, decision-making, financial realities, emotional resilience, community building, and the brave moment when someone decides, “It’s time to go.” These episodes are long-form, honest, and full of lived experience you won’t find in a checklist.

Moving forward, we're excited to bring you the more educational, structured, step-by-step side of relocation, and changing our name to Moving For Smarties. This show is built as a bingeable class on YouTube and we're making it available everywhere you listen as well. We take the full FRED Framework journey (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through curated playlist paths that guide your decision-making from the ground up. Both shows work together:

• (The old) Mariette’s On The Move = real conversations and lived experiences.

• (The new) Moving For Smarties = the coaching, tools, and frameworks to help you make a values-aligned move.

Whether you’re preparing for a move, considering a major life shift, or simply love hearing the behind-the-scenes stories of people rebuilding their lives, you’re in the right place.

For deeper support, join The Smart Move Society, a community that offers group coaching, 1:1 coaching options, workshops, and city-focused guidance to help you relocate with confidence. Find it on our website.

Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/

Instagram: @mariettesonthemove

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mariettesonthemove

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@movingforsmarties

In this episode, I'm introducing you to the Dreams Part 1 playlist from the Moving For Smarties YouTube channel which tells you about what and discusses the importance of living a fulfilling life and the role of dreams in shaping our reality. To watch the video, head to https://www.youtube.com/@Movingforsmarties

Before you move, there’s one big question you need to ask yourself: Am I chasing a dream — or running from something?

In this episode of Moving for Smarties, Mariette Frey introduces the Dreams Module of the FRED Framework: Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, and Dreams. This is where the smart move journey begins, because before you can figure out the money, the logistics, the support system, or the destination, you need to understand what is truly pulling you forward.

Using the powerful idea that some people live 90 years while others repeat the same year 90 times, Mariette invites you to look honestly at your life, your dreams, and the version of yourself you may be ready to become.

This episode is not about figuring out the “how” yet. It is about getting clear on the “what.” What do you want your life to feel like? What kind of energy do you want to live in? Are you being pulled toward a dream, or pushed by fear, stress, boredom, or burnout?

Mariette also shares a personal story about dreaming of moving from San Diego to San Francisco, sitting by the Golden Gate Bridge, imagining the life she wanted, and watching that dream eventually become a real, practical next step. Because your dream is not fluff.Your dream is data. And data leads to decisions.

• Why every smart move starts with the question: Am I chasing a dream or running from something?
• What the Dreams Module is inside the FRED Framework
• Why Mariette starts with Dreams before Finances, Robustness, and Ecosystem
• How dreams help you reverse engineer the rest of your relocation decision
• Why the “what” comes before the “how”
• How to identify what is pulling you forward versus what is pushing you away
• Why fear-based decision making can keep you stuck
• How old dreams can expire — and why that does not mean you failed
• Why specificity matters when imagining your future life
• How one clear vision can become a compass for your next chapter

“The coldest winter I ever spent was a summer in San Francisco,” -Mark Twain

That was the quote I couldn't figure out how to say right about San Francisco- see why it's tricky?!

• A notebook or piece of paper
• A pen
• A quiet moment to think honestly
• Willingness to imagine boldly
• Permission to write before judging whether the dream is practical

Use these as journaling prompts after listening:

• Am I chasing a dream or running from something?
• What am I truly trying to move toward?
• What am I trying to get away from?
• What kind of energy do I want to live in?
• If I were living fully, boldly, and with total confidence, what would my life look like?
• What would I see, hear, smell, and feel in that future life?
• What city, neighborhood, home, routine, or community keeps showing up in my mind?
• What am I trying to prove?
• Who am I trying to prove it to?
• Is this still my dream, or is it an old dream I have outgrown?

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Living Fully

03:07 Understanding Dreams and Their Energy

05:55 Visualizing Your Dreams

09:08 Documenting Your Dreams for Clarity

If you’re exploring a move, dreaming about a new city, or trying to figure out what’s next, subscribe to Moving for Smarties and follow along through the full Dreams playlist. And if you want support, planning tools, community, and real conversations about finding a place that fits who you are becoming, join the Smart Move Society, you can find it on our website, movingforsmarties.com

Life insurance disputes are not only legally exhausting but also emotionally draining. Mariette Frey talks about the right way to deal with them with Stephanie Prestridge, an attorney and founder of Life Claim. They explain why many people overlook the importance of planning for living, not just dying, especially when they own a home. Stephanie breaks down how to properly navigate the loss of a loved one and how it requires both emotional and legal considerations. She also explores the significance of regularly updating beneficiary designations, why the power of attorney is your most important legal document, and how to have open conversations about estate planning with your loved ones.

Mariette Frey is a relocation strategist, life coach, and host of the Moving Tips + Tricks podcast. Every week on Smart Move Monday: Coach Mariette’s Corner, she offers free coaching to help listeners move with clarity and confidence. Check out her favorite tools, trusted show sponsors, and more at www.decidingtomove.com. Free spots are limited — coaching roster opens soon!

Moving For Smarties, hosted by Mariette Frey of Mariette’s On The Move, started as an interview-driven podcast exploring the real stories behind relocation, reinvention, and life transitions. Across 60+ conversations with first-time homebuyers, repeat movers, industry experts, and everyday people navigating major life changes, this show opens the curtain on what moving is really like—from the joyful and exciting to the unexpected, chaotic, and downright overwhelming.

In the first 60 episodes, the show dives into the human side of moving: identity shifts, decision-making, financial realities, emotional resilience, community building, and the brave moment when someone decides, “It’s time to go.” These episodes are long-form, honest, and full of lived experience you won’t find in a checklist.

Moving forward, we're excited to bring you the more educational, structured, step-by-step side of relocation, and changing our name to Moving For Smarties. This show is built as a bingeable class on YouTube and we're making it available everywhere you listen as well. We take the full FRED Framework journey (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through curated playlist paths that guide your decision-making from the ground up.

Both shows work together:

• (The old) Mariette’s On The Move = real conversations and lived experiences.

• (The new) Moving For Smarties = the coaching, tools, and frameworks to help you make a values-aligned move.

Whether you’re preparing for a move, considering a major life shift, or simply love hearing the behind-the-scenes stories of people rebuilding their lives, you’re in the right place.

For deeper support, join The Smart Move Society, a community that offers group coaching, 1:1 coaching options, workshops, and city-focused guidance to help you relocate with confidence. Find it on our website.

Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/

Favorites: https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites/

Instagram: @mariettesonthemove

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mariettesonthemove

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@movingforsmarties

Moving For Smarties, hosted by Mariette Frey of Mariette’s On The Move, started as an interview-driven podcast exploring the real stories behind relocation, reinvention, and life transitions. Across 60+ conversations with first-time homebuyers, repeat movers, industry experts, and everyday people navigating major life changes, this show opens the curtain on what moving is really like—from the joyful and exciting to the unexpected, chaotic, and downright overwhelming.

In the first 60 episodes, the show dives into the human side of moving: identity shifts, decision-making, financial realities, emotional resilience, community building, and the brave moment when someone decides, “It’s time to go.” These episodes are long-form, honest, and full of lived experience you won’t find in a checklist.

Moving forward, we're excited to bring you the more educational, structured, step-by-step side of relocation, and changing our name to Moving For Smarties. This show is built as a bingeable class on YouTube and we're making it available everywhere you listen as well. We take the full FRED Framework journey (Finances, Robustness, Ecosystem, Dreams) through curated playlist paths that guide your decision-making from the ground up.

Both shows work together:

• (The old) Mariette’s On The Move = real conversations and lived experiences.

• (The new) Moving For Smarties = the coaching, tools, and frameworks to help you make a values-aligned move.

Whether you’re preparing for a move, considering a major life shift, or simply love hearing the behind-the-scenes stories of people rebuilding their lives, you’re in the right place.

For deeper support, go to our website and join 'The Smart Move Society,' a community that offers group coaching, 1:1 coaching options, workshops, and city-focused guidance to help you relocate with confidence.

So...Onward Moving Smartie! I'm glad you're here :)

Website: https://movingforsmarties.com/

Favorites: https://movingforsmarties.com/favorites/

Instagram: @mariettesonthemove

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariettefrey/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mariettesonthemove

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@movingforsmarties

In this episode of Moving Tips + Tricks, I sit down with Dr. Maggie Baker, author of Crazy About Money, to explore the hidden emotions behind our financial decisions—especially during stressful transitions like moving. With 35 years as a psychologist and 20 years in financial therapy, Dr. Baker shares personal stories, client breakthroughs, and eye-opening concepts like “mental accounting” that reveal why smart people make irrational money choices. We also discuss practical ways to stay calm, avoid shame spirals, and make better financial decisions during life’s biggest changes.

Mariette Frey is a relocation strategist, life coach, and host of the Moving Tips + Tricks podcast. Every week on Smart Move Monday: Coach Mariette’s Corner, she offers free coaching to help listeners move with clarity and confidence. Check out her favorite tools, trusted show sponsors, and more at www.decidingtomove.com. Free spots are limited — coaching roster opens soon!

The psychology of moving goes far beyond logistics—it’s a profound emotional journey of loss, adaptation, and self-discovery. In this inspiring conversation, psychotherapist and leadership coach Saunders Moore unpacks how relocation can unsettle identity, trigger grief-like brain responses, and test resilience, especially after life-altering events like Hurricane Helene’s floods in Asheville, North Carolina. Through personal insight and professional expertise, she shares how to process the emotional weight of moving, build a supportive community in unfamiliar places, and use self-compassion as a tool for healing. With practical tips and mindset shifts, Saunders helps you not just adjust, but truly thrive in your new chapter.

Mariette Frey is a relocation strategist, life coach, and host of the Moving Tips + Tricks podcast. Every week on Smart Move Monday: Coach Mariette’s Corner, she offers free coaching to help listeners move with clarity and confidence. Check out her favorite tools, trusted show sponsors, and more at www.decidingtomove.com. Free spots are limited — coaching roster opens soon!

And Your Body Knows It

In this insightful episode, Mariette Frey delves into the often-overlooked biological effects of major life transitions, such as moving. As a relocation and life coach, Mariette shares her personal experiences and research on how these transitions impact our bodies and minds. From the fight-or-flight response triggered by change to the emotional and physical toll of decision fatigue, Mariette offers practical strategies to navigate these challenges. Tune in to learn how to support your brain and body through life's big changes and discover that you're not alone in feeling the chaos.

Mariette Frey is a relocation strategist, life coach, and host of the Moving Tips + Tricks podcast. Every week on Smart Move Monday: Coach Mariette’s Corner, she offers free coaching to help listeners move with clarity and confidence. Check out her favorite tools, trusted show sponsors, and more at www.decidingtomove.com. Free spots are limited — coaching roster opens soon!