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Moving from Being Angry Toward What You Really Need - Episode 68
Robert continues his guidance in developing our capacity to move outside our conditioning and reactive emotions. Most of us behave based on how we were seen or unseen by our parents or by others in our society that we model. We often identify with the heroes that are athletes or actors in TV shows. Amplifying these skills to inquire who we aspire to be independent of our conditioning will allow us to question ourselves, listen to what the answers are, and find ways to respond. This episode, on the surface, may appear to be mostly focused on one lone case study, the gradual steps of healing, and how it applies to various concrete examples. However, Robert makes it clear that the primary emphasis is you being able to find your own needs, starting with your challenges. While listening, seek the potential benefits of expressing what you need rather than staying with what you are against in your resistant state. There is no one size fits all. Sometimes you need to find a way to communicate sensitively. Sometimes you need to find a way to resolve it internally.
The case study discussed is a couple that has been with Robert for 10 to 15 years. When Adam came to work with Robert many years ago, his main complaint was that his wife was self-centered and angry. What he wanted was more open heart communication and more connection, but his tone was hostile and angry. With that kind of tone inevitably an endless power struggle would continue. With some resistance, Robert was able to help Adam realize he was not just an innocent character in all this. Through several sessions, Adam gradually became aware of his feelings of abandonment, his hurt, his aloneness, his loneliness, his dependency, and his desire to be intimate. See how Adam's story unfolds into a renewed relationship with his wife. In contemplating this case the central focus is to see your patterns. Remember a point in time either that has happened recently or throughout your life and use Adam's story as a mirror to look at your relationship with anger.
Read the transcription and listen to this episode at Awareness That Heals.
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By Robert J Strock
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Robert continues his guidance in developing our capacity to move outside our conditioning and reactive emotions. Most of us behave based on how we were seen or unseen by our parents or by others in our society that we model. We often identify with the heroes that are athletes or actors in TV shows. Amplifying these skills to inquire who we aspire to be independent of our conditioning will allow us to question ourselves, listen to what the answers are, and find ways to respond. This episode, on the surface, may appear to be mostly focused on one lone case study, the gradual steps of healing, and how it applies to various concrete examples. However, Robert makes it clear that the primary emphasis is you being able to find your own needs, starting with your challenges. While listening, seek the potential benefits of expressing what you need rather than staying with what you are against in your resistant state. There is no one size fits all. Sometimes you need to find a way to communicate sensitively. Sometimes you need to find a way to resolve it internally.
The case study discussed is a couple that has been with Robert for 10 to 15 years. When Adam came to work with Robert many years ago, his main complaint was that his wife was self-centered and angry. What he wanted was more open heart communication and more connection, but his tone was hostile and angry. With that kind of tone inevitably an endless power struggle would continue. With some resistance, Robert was able to help Adam realize he was not just an innocent character in all this. Through several sessions, Adam gradually became aware of his feelings of abandonment, his hurt, his aloneness, his loneliness, his dependency, and his desire to be intimate. See how Adam's story unfolds into a renewed relationship with his wife. In contemplating this case the central focus is to see your patterns. Remember a point in time either that has happened recently or throughout your life and use Adam's story as a mirror to look at your relationship with anger.
Read the transcription and listen to this episode at Awareness That Heals.