There are always stories behind stories. Everyone has a karmic history which shaped their outlook and expression. It's not always easy to discern a victory from a failure. A deliberate, purposeful action born from awareness, may be perceived as failure, but lead ultimately to success. It is better to preserve and respect a worthwhile relationship than to express an expectation or egoistic judgement. It is essential to see beyond the immediate and the obvious and to remain humble and accepting.