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My boyfriend says soap is optional… and now I genuinely feel like I’m being gaslit.

In today’s episode of the Husband & Life Podcast, we react to one of the most shocking relationship dilemmas we’ve ever received:

A woman writes in asking if she’s overreacting… because her boyfriend claims you don’t need to use soap when you shower, and that hot water alone is enough.

But things have started to feel uncomfortable:

Towels smelling off

Sheets needing constant rewashing

Hygiene concerns affecting intimacy

Her partner insisting she’s “too sensitive” for expecting basic cleanliness

So the real question becomes…

Is this a cultural difference… or is this just bad hygiene being dressed up as manipulation?

We break down:

What gaslighting actually looks like in relationships

Hygiene standards in shared living spaces

When “you’re overreacting” becomes emotional invalidation

Boundaries, respect, and basic adult cleanliness

Relationship red flags people ignore until it’s too late

This episode is funny, uncomfortable, and WAY more common than people admit.

 Comment your verdict:

Is soap non-negotiable…

or is she doing too much?

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