Ever since covid intensified in March, our lives have been in a state of constant flux. What the pandemic has exposed, among many things, is how we define our comfort zone as individuals, communities, and nations, and how flexible and adaptable we are (or aren’t). What we are comfortable or uncomfortable with has gone from a semi-conscious reaction to a continuous, real-time calculation.

Much of what we would define as “comfortable” is simply an absence of strong emotion, positive or negative. It’s neutral. It’s your resting heart rate. Nothing exciting or devastating happens in the comfort zone, but no personal growth happens there either.

I think two things have the ability to shape our comfort zones in very different and powerful ways :

1. Fear, and the role we allow it to play in shaping our lives
2. Awareness, of what fits or doesn’t fit with who we are

One reason I don’t have kids is because, being a mom is not in my comfort zone. Am I afraid of having kids? Yes. Do I fear being a mom? Yes, I believe I do. Have I challenged this fear? Absolutely. Have I challenged it by having a kid? No.

Listen to the podcast episode as I expose the two co-creating forces that shape our comfort zones, and share some ideas of how you can challenge your fear if you’re deciding whether to have kids.