Intellectually, we understand we are all different. When and how you work best, your talents, skills, tastes, your personality, family, privilege, culture, can all impact how you work and your expectations of your co-workers. We know this. Many of us have been “typed” by some tool used in a corporate or academic setting – ENFJ or Hedgehog or whatever.

And yet. We often have that surprise, that moment of disbelief when faced with the difference. Wait, there are people who get energy from being with others, says the introvert (me). You don’t like chocolate? Cilantro tastes like soap to you?  

Plenty of people I love can’t stand this way of arguing, so I’ve spent years modulating, metabolizing, and reframing how I navigate conflict. I study it, write about it, do trainings about conflict and anger.  

I’m doing some trainings in the next few weeks, and have revisited this content, yes, I am repurposing part of a training I’m doing here. Freebie for us both, then. I want to show it not as a definitive assessment, but as a quick framework that might help in team situations where conflict is an issue.

Listen for the rest!

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