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My Mother Triggers Me
Just had a question from a member of this community who is caring for a mother with dementia who needs her for care, but at the same time cuts her off if the conversation gets too heated. Here's what she wrote:
"One of my triggers I need to work on is not feeling like a 12-year-old child when my mom‘s tone of voice changes. I am her only caregiver as she has Dementia. When her paranoia sets in and I know where it’s coming from in her childhood and the hard life she has had there is no fixing that now with her disease Just to be respectful where she’s at
I know that sometimes we have to have tough conversations. My trigger is that what if after the tough conversation she cuts me out of her life and game there is nobody else to take care of her she’s cut off all friends my brother is back east and her brother does not want the responsibility. She’s only just let me back in her life the last year and in and out for the past 5 to 10 years. When we talk about what she loves the most she always talks about her grandchildren which of the five of them she has very little contact with. I know I’m never going to get that unconditional love from her she never had it from her parents and didn’t know how to give it to us my job is to work through that."
While she didn't specifically ask a question (I'll share why this is an important step in this) I will do my best to unpack this and give the solution.
Not getting this will lead to more breakdowns, conflict, and ruptures in the relationship.
When you get this right-- you are able to create deep connections.
Watch the video to learn more.
_________________________
Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
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By Nima RahmanyJust had a question from a member of this community who is caring for a mother with dementia who needs her for care, but at the same time cuts her off if the conversation gets too heated. Here's what she wrote:
"One of my triggers I need to work on is not feeling like a 12-year-old child when my mom‘s tone of voice changes. I am her only caregiver as she has Dementia. When her paranoia sets in and I know where it’s coming from in her childhood and the hard life she has had there is no fixing that now with her disease Just to be respectful where she’s at
I know that sometimes we have to have tough conversations. My trigger is that what if after the tough conversation she cuts me out of her life and game there is nobody else to take care of her she’s cut off all friends my brother is back east and her brother does not want the responsibility. She’s only just let me back in her life the last year and in and out for the past 5 to 10 years. When we talk about what she loves the most she always talks about her grandchildren which of the five of them she has very little contact with. I know I’m never going to get that unconditional love from her she never had it from her parents and didn’t know how to give it to us my job is to work through that."
While she didn't specifically ask a question (I'll share why this is an important step in this) I will do my best to unpack this and give the solution.
Not getting this will lead to more breakdowns, conflict, and ruptures in the relationship.
When you get this right-- you are able to create deep connections.
Watch the video to learn more.
_________________________
Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.