I'm comparing the time from before working with a life coach, Mz.selfluv to now. I'm not boasting or saying I'm anything better than the next person. I'm just giving a boundaries status report on how I approach dating. Let's learn together because we're all on a journey. And we're trying stuff to help ourselves along on this wild ride called life. When I got the self love coach mz.selfluv I was running to toxic men who gave me so little, but yet got so much from, before ever proving anything to me that I needed. I gave them what they wanted, before ever having them prove a single thing. Nope, enough of the free samples. But, If you don't have them, their touch, their comfort, what do yiu have, where do yiy get it? You need them right? Yes, in a manner of speaking. What they don't give you as companion, lover, good warm feelings of value, now, it's up to you, to give to you, those things. Want a romantic date, want a partner to stroll on a beach, at a park, by a lake, imagine him! Imagine her! Pretend they exist, but don't go for or let in a mofo who will lower your value, worth . Seriously, be for your yourself, talk to yourself in a lover, sweet companion, protective life partner kind of way. Ask those morning greetings, to you, yourselves. Ask yourself, at the end of the day, so sweetie how was your day, or anything yiu want to talk about? Then journal that, on paper, in an audio journal, what have you. Don't turn outward to a damaging source of a person who's treatment of you is spotty , like fucking bad wifi, or cell bars. Try this with me, what you seek outside of you, be for your self in you.