This is a special episode of A Toast To Truths. We're recording this episode live and on location.

A Toast To Truths is my observation on hushed biz conversations that deserve a public dialogue. These "forbidden" truths often lead to mental, emotional and financial frustration because you don't know who you can confide in to talk to about these issues. My special guest co-hosts and I are going to reveal the ugly truths and consequences of life as a real entrepreneur.

My guest co-host is Erin Creeks of Ms. Independent Group. I'll share how we met. When I moved to Houston I knew 1 person. A friend from high school and she introduced me to her best friend from college. So little to say I didn't have many friends. But then I went on meetup.com and that's how I found Erin's group. She was one of the few people who actually created events that would get this introvert out of the house.

The topic for this special episode is 'My Purpose is Exhausting'.

So let's hop into this episode's question. Why are we not allowed to express when we're tired?

Part I:

• Glorified entrepreneurship culture
• Fear of expressing you're actually tired
• Difference between having a job and being an entrepreneur when it comes to having a job
• What Erin does in the event space
• How she manages dealing with what she does and keeping it together
• #GirlsNightOut Erin's signature event
• From idea to putting out fires when planning an event
• Doing something for a year and dealing with the details
• The hiccups with #getmepaid19
• The adrenaline that keeps you going
• Sharing about creating my first event, Fusion Tour
• The aftermath of events
• The debate about how much sleep one should get
• Knowing what time you work best
• Why I prioritize rest

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Part II:

• Evaluating our purpose
• Don't have to always monetize your purpose
• The evolution of your purpose
• Know when to monetize your purpose and when to just enjoy it
• Being emotionally invested in your purpose
• Using your skills opposed to monetizing your purpose
• Dreams and random thoughts
• Sharing what my purpose is
• Understanding how to operate in your purpose
• Challenges help us get through the growing process
• The exhaustion of working with others when they aren't aligned with your purpose
• 3 Signs You Outgrew Your Community
• Asking and planning with and without input from your community
• Rethinking how to look at situations
• Know who you can help and who you can't help
• You know from the beginning if you're aligned or not
• Feeling uneasy before a reluctant YES
• · Running around to figure out what to do after helping others
• · Knowing when to not take on another thing
• · Telling someone they aren't qualified or ready
• · Sometimes you have to let people crash into the wall
• · Going through the experience yourself
• · Limiting beliefs
• · Exhausting activities
• · Assuming your help is beneficial when you don't know what people need
• · Our definition of purpose
• · Know your purpose and be okay if it's not in the limelight
• · Levels of purpose have different responsibilities, burdens
• · Stepping out of your purpose can lead to exhaustion
• · Making the decision to align with your purpose or do what you want instead
• · Friction still happens when you're operating in your purpose
• · Do you know how to spend $1m if you received it?

Final Toast:

• Erin - Your purpose is fluid. It will change as you change. You have to be open to that. Be open to knowing you might be a little exhausted from it. It's your baby. It's a lot you'll love and a lot you don't want. It's no less meaningful.
• Vernetta - Allow people to run into the brick wall. Won't be exhausted from helping them. And keeps me in alignment.

This has been A Toast to Truths with me, Vernetta R. Freeney and my guest co-host, Erin Creeks. This is a special episode and we shared the consequences we've encountered.

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