From 30 years of coaching, teaching, and parenting, Karl Subban knows how to ignite potential in young people. He captures his strategies in How We Did It: The Subban Plan for Success in Hockey, School and Life. In the backyard and the schoolyard, Subban has spent his life encouraging kids to dream big, set goals, and accomplish great things.

00:15   Intro to Karl Subban – author, coach, teacher, and parent

00:55   Intro to the five accomplished Subban children

01:20   How Karl’s dreams morph through time (from cricket to basketball to teaching)

01:55   All three Subban boys play professional hockey

02:20   Back to school, hockey, and kids chasing dreams

03:10   Jamaican family of origin built on a foundation of hard work, giving, love, care, safety

04:35   Learns early about discipline, right and wrong

04:50   Hockey skills vs. life skills

05:15   Everyday parenting never ends, even when children are grown

05:50   Giving unconditional love, support, and time

06:15   Can’t influence kids without spending time with them

06:30   Discipline and boundaries part of raising a healthy child

06:50   “It takes a village” to raise a child, including resources such as time

08:15   Giving wings to kids’ dreams starts with potential

08:45   Coaches in Greater Toronto Hockey League

09:30   The three-legged stool of potential: dreams, belief, and action

10:10   Son P.K. Subban dreamt to play hockey (NFL Nashville Predators)

10:30   Belief vs. doubt requires reinforcing our belief system

11:00   “Designer” parenting (bulldozer, helicopter, or lawnmower) not the answer

11:30   What do kids say about their own motivation and ability to learn and grow?

12:00   Potential – our gift at birth; fulfilling potential – our gift to the world

12:50   Action activates the dream

13:55   Parents’ dreams vs. kids’ dreams (story of middle son Malcolm)

14:10   O.K. to have a dream for a child

14:45   “Clear the way, pave the way, and get out of the way!”

15:50   Malcolm wants to be a goalie, but Karl sees him as a hockey field player

16:40   Now, Malcolm plays goalie for the NHL Las Vegas Knights

17:15   Attributes family success to strong marriage & loving relationship with wife Maria

17:35   Raising five children a key ingredient to the Subbans' marital success

18:55   Karl and Maria agree on a problem but not on an approach

19:35   The “24-Hour Rule”

22:25  Most important life lessons: learning to respond to conflict, handling adversity 

23:40   1 in 1000 boys who register to play hockey goes on to play an NHL game

23:55   How realistic is it to help kids chase dreams when odds are against them?

25:00   One dream leads to another; always keep dreaming

26:10   Subban girls pursue own dreams while helping brothers fulfill theirs

28:30   Children must be good at something in addition to school

29:30   Subban values practices more than games (winning)

29:55   You are what you practice; practice makes you better (in every area)

30:30   Every child needs a balance of pushing and inspiration

31:15   What Subban would do differently (as an educator)

32:05   Seeing children's potential influences how they see themselves

32:15   Ascribes to Carol Dweck’s Mindset approach to growth

32:55   Successful parenting also requires believing in children’s potential

34:15   Subban wants his kids to continually move on with dreams, not just play hockey

34:50   Making it professionally important, but so is "making it in life"

36:10   Recommendation: “Nights Up” (a parenting tip)

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