When a woman or a father attacks a naive male, he immediately

opens himself up and takes the attack right into himself.

"Oh, yes, that is true. I am really bad!" It does not occur to

him that the attack may be something quite different. Maybe the

woman or father is angry at something else and is displacing or projecting the anger onto the man.

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