In this episode we explore what narcissism is and what is most-definitely is not. You will learn is that narcissists are not psychopaths, and vice-versa, but there is a form of narcissism which had been, up until now, confused with psychopathy, and vice-versa. According to the research of the two psychologists in this episode, narcissism may even need to be renamed, because it isn't excessive self-love, it's excessive self-loathing. Narcissists like Don Draper in Mad Men cope with their insecurity by donning a mask, and then spend most of their lives protecting that mask out of a fear of what will happen if people ever see what it hides.
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206 - Narcissism

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285 - What Do You Mean? - Celeste Kidd (rebroadcast)

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284 - Awe - Dacher Keltner (rebroadcast)

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283 - Cultures of Growth - Mary C. Murphy

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206 - Narcissism

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