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Alan Watts The Love Engineer, a coach whose mission is to help high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women stop pushing away the very men they say they long for. Combining wisdom in attachment, nervous system healing, and relational dynamics, Alan guides women from over-functioning, anxiety-driven patterns into presence, ease, and receiving love without losing themselves.

With his signature approach, Alan unpacks the operating systems that silently sabotage attraction and teaches women how to rewire their bodies to trust steady masculine energy.

His work isn’t about strategy or “dating hacks” it’s about nervous system upgrades, inner integration, and creating chemistry through safety.

As host of Relationship Revolutions, Alan leads honest conversations about real love, the behind-the-scenes of how we heal, do less, and let the kind of men we claim to want finally feel possible.

Website https://theloveengineer.rocks/

Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/loveengineer/

Guest

Larissa Astara Gray

Larissa Astara Gray is on a heartfelt mission to transform the way we talk about sex, connection and belonging. With her lived experience of trauma, recovery and reclamation, she brings authenticity, sensitivity and real-world wisdom to conversations that are often shrouded in shame or silence.

Drawing from years as a speaker, facilitator and educator, Larissa unpacks complex topics—from pornography’s hidden impact and consent dynamics, to how our early stories shape intimacy and how sexual self-worth ties into connected relationships.

Website https://larissaastaragray.co.uk/

Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/larissa-astara-gray-a98374202/

Summary

In this episode of Relationship Revolutions, host Alan Watts speaks with sex educator Larissa Astara Gray about the importance of boundaries, consent, and the impact of toxic relationships on personal development.

Larissa shares her painful journey to becoming a sex educator, emphasising the need for open discussions about sexuality and the dangers of pornography. They explore the issues of sextortion, revenge porn, and the influence of social media on sexual behaviour.

The conversation highlights the significance of understanding trauma responses and the role of healthy relationships in healing. Ultimately, Larissa advocates for honest communication as a fundamental aspect of building meaningful connections.

Takeaways

Larissa's journey to becoming a sex educator was painful and difficult.

The impact of toxic relationships can lead to long-term trauma.

Consent is a crucial topic that needs more open discussion.

Understanding trauma responses is essential for healthy relationships.

Pornography has a significant impact on modern sexual culture.

Sextortion is a growing issue that affects many young people.

Revenge porn can have devastating effects on individuals.

Social media plays a major role in shaping sexual behaviour.

Seeking external solutions often leads to deeper internal issues.

Healthy sexual experiences can aid in healing past traumas.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Boundaries and Sexuality

01:49 Larissa's Journey to Becoming a Sex Educator

07:39 The Impact of Toxic Relationships and Trauma

09:02 The Importance of Consent in Sexual Education

16:37 Understanding Trauma Responses and Consent

20:42 The Role of Pornography in Modern Sexuality

26:13 Sextortion and Its Consequences

30:07 The Dangers of Revenge Porn and Online Exploitation

34:51 The Influence of Social Media on Sexual Behavior

43:52 Seeking External Solutions to Internal Problems

52:03 Healing Through Healthy Sexual Experiences

59:27 The Importance of Intuition in Relationships

01:08:16 Breaking Down Walls to Love

01:08:35 Final Thoughts on Communication in Relationships