In Part 2 of this conversation with Lynette Winter, we move into how leaders apply these ideas in real situations.

We explore how leaders can leverage vulnerability, not having all the answers, to unlock the intelligence of their team and create space for better thinking. Lynette shares a powerful reframe on conflict: people are always trying to get their needs met, and when leaders shift to finding shared care, conversations begin to open instead of stall.

We also dive into practical tools from the Intel Leadership Fitness Program, including Relationship, Possibility, and Action (RPA), along with LRA and the 3-2-1 perspective shift. These tools help leaders structure conversations, stay grounded, and move from tension to productive outcomes.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in conversations or misaligned with your team, this episode offers simple practices you can apply immediately.

Enjoy!

Chapters

00:00 – Introduction and focus on vulnerability and shared care

01:20 – Leading without having all the answers

03:00 – Beginner’s mindset vs expert mindset

05:00 – Introducing RPA: Relationship, Possibility, Action

07:00 – Leadership is about people, not just systems

08:30 – People are always trying to get their needs met

10:00 – Finding shared care to unlock conversations

11:30 – Structuring conversations with RPA

13:30 – Aligning on the type of conversation (relationship vs action)

15:30 – Naming where you are in the conversation

17:00 – Balancing preference for action vs possibility

18:00 – Divergence and convergence in decision making

19:30 – Practicing RPA as a team habit

22:00 – Reducing unproductive conflict through structure

24:00 – Practice over perfection: building the habit

27:30 – Start in low-stakes situations to build skill

31:00 – Leadership mindset: curiosity

32:00 – Lessons from parenting: humility and letting go of control

36:30 – Final takeaway: people are always trying to meet their needs