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Episode Description
What does it really mean to “speak your truth”? And when does honesty strengthen connection—or quietly damage it?
In this episode of the More in Common Podcast, Keith Richardson and Gerren Taylor sit down with Jen Oliver—speaking coach, podcast host, and founder of Speaking Real Communications—to explore the emotional, relational, and cultural complexity of truth-telling.
Jen shares her personal “no lying” experiment inspired by Martha Beck, unpacking how small, socially acceptable untruths create distance in relationships. Together, they examine the difference between honesty that’s true, kind, and necessary, and honesty that’s self-serving, avoidant, or unintentionally harmful.
From intimate relationships and parenting to recovery culture and modern “speak your truth” rhetoric, this conversation challenges black-and-white thinking and offers a more human, compassionate framework for emotional honesty.
This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation.
Time Chapters
00:00 – Cold open & unexpected honesty
Nudist colonies, hats, and why this episode immediately goes off-script.
03:00 – Meet Jen Oliver
Speaking coach, podcast host, and her mission to help people stop performing and start connecting.
04:45 – The “no lying” challenge
Inspired by Martha Beck: what counts as a lie—and why saying “yes” when you mean “no” matters.
07:30 – Giving people the dignity of their response
Why telling the truth isn’t about managing someone else’s emotions.
10:45 – Honesty vs. emotional responsibility
Where truth ends and self-protection begins in relationships.
14:30 – The Three Gates of Honesty
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
18:00 – Parenting, protection, and selective truth
Why something can be true—but still not kind or needed.
21:30 – Truth as a barrier or a bridge
How untruths quietly erode connection over time.
24:00 – Leaving certainty behind
Jen reflects on religion, dogma, and the discomfort of emotional ambiguity.
27:15 – “Do I look good in this?”
A cultural landmine—and why there’s no universal right answer.
30:30 – Why this conversation continues
Honesty isn’t black and white—and that’s the work.
Key Topics & Keywords
Emotional honesty
Speaking your truth
Authentic communication
Emotional intelligence
Relationship communication
Truth vs kindness
Boundaries and self-trust
Vulnerability and connection
Masculinity and emotional awareness
Conflict navigation
About the Guest
Jen Oliver is a speaking coach, podcast host (Listen for Real), and founder of Speaking Real Communications. Her work focuses on helping leaders and creatives communicate with authenticity, courage, and emotional clarity—without performing or people-pleasing.
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Episode Description
What does it really mean to “speak your truth”? And when does honesty strengthen connection—or quietly damage it?
In this episode of the More in Common Podcast, Keith Richardson and Gerren Taylor sit down with Jen Oliver—speaking coach, podcast host, and founder of Speaking Real Communications—to explore the emotional, relational, and cultural complexity of truth-telling.
Jen shares her personal “no lying” experiment inspired by Martha Beck, unpacking how small, socially acceptable untruths create distance in relationships. Together, they examine the difference between honesty that’s true, kind, and necessary, and honesty that’s self-serving, avoidant, or unintentionally harmful.
From intimate relationships and parenting to recovery culture and modern “speak your truth” rhetoric, this conversation challenges black-and-white thinking and offers a more human, compassionate framework for emotional honesty.
This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation.
Time Chapters
00:00 – Cold open & unexpected honesty
Nudist colonies, hats, and why this episode immediately goes off-script.
03:00 – Meet Jen Oliver
Speaking coach, podcast host, and her mission to help people stop performing and start connecting.
04:45 – The “no lying” challenge
Inspired by Martha Beck: what counts as a lie—and why saying “yes” when you mean “no” matters.
07:30 – Giving people the dignity of their response
Why telling the truth isn’t about managing someone else’s emotions.
10:45 – Honesty vs. emotional responsibility
Where truth ends and self-protection begins in relationships.
14:30 – The Three Gates of Honesty
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
18:00 – Parenting, protection, and selective truth
Why something can be true—but still not kind or needed.
21:30 – Truth as a barrier or a bridge
How untruths quietly erode connection over time.
24:00 – Leaving certainty behind
Jen reflects on religion, dogma, and the discomfort of emotional ambiguity.
27:15 – “Do I look good in this?”
A cultural landmine—and why there’s no universal right answer.
30:30 – Why this conversation continues
Honesty isn’t black and white—and that’s the work.
Key Topics & Keywords
Emotional honesty
Speaking your truth
Authentic communication
Emotional intelligence
Relationship communication
Truth vs kindness
Boundaries and self-trust
Vulnerability and connection
Masculinity and emotional awareness
Conflict navigation
About the Guest
Jen Oliver is a speaking coach, podcast host (Listen for Real), and founder of Speaking Real Communications. Her work focuses on helping leaders and creatives communicate with authenticity, courage, and emotional clarity—without performing or people-pleasing.