In this episode, I invited Life Coach and Kink Educator Wesley Toma onto the podcast to discuss preferences and ideal relationship. Some of the topics discussed include matching preferences within kink spaces, negotiating preferences, boundary setting, and how perfect relationships do not exist. Subscribe today and join the conversation!

Wesley was born into a fairly religious family and was taught that sex and sexuality are not things you do or talk about until you are married to the woman of your dreams. As he grew up, he slowly learned that everything about that statement was wrong. Wesley started unofficially life coaching people in his mid to late 20’s. Through doing this, he learned he had a passion to help people better themselves and has tried to follow that goal since. He recently became a Master Certified Life Coach and is one of the host of the podcast “These Queer Stories” (season 1 coming soon). You can book a free discovery call with Wesley and learn more about his services on his website (https://wesleytoma.com/).

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