Today we discuss the FAWN response. A great description I found "it is the maladaptive way of creating safety in connections with others by essentially mirroring the imagined expectations and desires of other people" 

This is the hallmark of people-pleasing and codependency. We discuss how this looks as an adult who struggles with saying no, putting up boundaries and whose value is based on helping others or being needed. 

We looked at how in relationships it shows up in abandoning our own needs for our partner's needs. 

As parents it shows up as giving, giving and giving until we burn ourselves out 

And most important, how it shows up as our kids who become the 'good kids' who never act out or challenge us and learn how to appease their parents in order to stay safe and connected.  A big saying we talked about is 'people-pleasers began as parent-pleasers'