My porn-addicted husband had an affair with my best friend and had a child with her years ago; what can I do to heal? How do I emotionally go through my pain if my unfaithful husband of 22yrs years wants to separate? I waited three hours before reacting to a triggering situation; is there a downside? I waited so I wouldn’t respond in anger. How much should I talk about my divorce when my grandkids ask me why I am not with my unfaithful wife?