I am an avoider, and my girlfriend thinks I don’t believe in her; how do I reengage when I have fear? How do I tell my elderly father with dementia, without making him feel abandoned, that we are putting him in assisted living? My first wife left me and the kids after 20yrs. I’m divorced now, but I’m afraid to marry my girlfriend. How do I not enable my daughter-in-law and son? They call every day to complain about each other, but they refuse counseling.