Dr. Alice Benton shares why talking about our feelings works. Should I divorce or separate? My controlling husband and I don’t communicate and are only living as roommates. I divorced my husband of 25yrs who was a pastor and committed adultery, but he is at all of the family functions. How do I stop having these awful feelings about him? Where is my stinginess coming from? I had a workaholic father, am a pleaser, and my husband had a severe injury. My two adult sons don’t get along with each other and haven’t talked in more than 5yrs; how can they reconcile and get together again?