How long should I wait to contact my wife if we’ve been separated due to my harshness toward her? I’m 88yo and clash with my kids; how do I stop getting triggered? How do I respond to a husband who does things out of obligation and is just a roommate with benefits? Why does my tough love stance with my 40yo schizophrenic son make me feel so bad? He is in and out of prison. Is it okay to hug my son first when his family comes to visit?