How can I help my 14yo granddaughter who told me her 30yo brother sexually abused her? I’m a traveling salesman who has fallen into drinking and porn; is there a connection between this and my mom’s emotional abuse? My granddaughter is in college and says she is a lesbian; at Christmas do I take her out and give her advice? I was divorced in May and just found out my ex got married in July. What do I say to my teen sons who kept it a secret?