Should I attempt to save my 21yr marriage if my moral failings have left my narcissistic wife unwilling to do anything? After I followed your advice and said no to my drug addict son, he is now in rehab! My husband tried to choke me, but he denies it. A pastor told me it is my fault bad things are happening to me. I’m separated from my porn-addicted husband who is physically abusive and dating other women. What does God require of me? My dad used to tie me down as a child; now I’m angry, depressed, and have gone through many counselors. Where do I go from here? Would Intimacy in Marriage be good for us if we are separated due to my husband being violent?