We’ve been married 30yrs and we have hurt each other with my porn addiction and her affair. How do we stop thinking about the past? I want to give thanks to Steve for your devotion to what you do! Alice is my therapist and she is a cut above the rest! I just found out my boyfriend is using porn, and he says he can stop and he’s not addicted. How do I set boundaries? How can I help my employee be more assertive? She is highly agreeable and avoids conflicts.