Dr. Jill shares her thoughts on what to do when disaster strikes. My 19yo son is in college studying psychology and has become hateful in his speech toward his mother; how do I deal with him? My wife said some unbelievably terrible things to me in front of the kids 13yrs ago, and it’s still hard for me today. I’ve been dating a man for 3yrs and it’s not even serious; what should I do?