If I’m a pleaser and just started saying no to my vacillator wife, what are some suggestions to make it work? How do I improve my relationship with my high-functioning autistic son while raising his 6yo son? I separated 5mos ago; how do I recover after my husband physically and emotionally abused me for 40yrs? My wife says she’ll never submit to me after I committed adultery, and she will choose our five children over me. What should I say?