JJ West shares about One-Anothering vs. Othering. How do I get my husband out of bed? When I try to get him to do something, he argues and then goes back to sleep. How do I heal my relationship with my adult adopted daughter? She cut off communication when I tried to reconcile. I’ve been married 27yrs to a narcissist and found texts from another woman. I wanted to let your first caller know that I’ve been 20yrs clean from drugs and once I was off of methadone, I still had the urge to use. You have to keep working the program.