If you can’t make amends or if you feel that the person you’ve hurt won’t forgive you, how do you forgive yourself? How do I respond to my adult children who try to get my attention by acting out? I’m a chaplain and my agnostic commander falsely accused me of proselytizing him; how do I build trust with him? I asked a pastor about my husband watching cartoon porn, and he said it wasn’t as bad as him watching online porn. My 28yo son with social anxiety lives at home and has failed to launch. Is this a behavior problem?