Dr. Jill discusses planners and procrastinators; your style relates to anxiety. How can I move forward with my estranged sister? I gave her everything, and all she ever did was take. I was married almost 40yrs to an abusive man and am still triggered 8mos after his death. My 38yo daughter is in an abusive marriage and I have joint conservatorship of my grandkids; if I drop my conservatorship, will the children go with their father if they get a divorce? Should I tell my husband that I won’t go to a party where his daughter and his ex-wife will be?