Becky Brown asks, “Who do you think you are?” My friends accuse me of enabling my son in the music industry because I gave him rent money for his birthday; how do I help him without enabling? Would it be horrible for me to put in writing that it’s time for my 47yo son to leave my home? He doesn’t pay rent and has lived here for 10yrs. My husband of 20yrs refuses to maintain or fix anything in our home, and he won’t let me hire someone.