Everything changes over time, even how we can best support friends and family when they are going through a hard time. I had heard the same peppy advice my whole life. “You’ve got to stay strong!” “Be optimistic!” This encouragement is given by caring people who want you to be happy. I never thought how these sayings might be… a little patronizing. I don’t know what this person is going through. How can I tell them they should be happy, strong, or optimistic?

This episode is an interview with Cheri Frazer, my wife, about how to offer people your help and encouragement.