Learning to say "no" is essential for setting boundaries, protecting our own time and energy, and being authentic to ourselves. It can be challenging, especially for people-pleasers, but by understanding our capacity, being self-compassionate, and practicing clear communication, we can navigate the complexities of saying "no" in a healthy and empowered way.

In this episode, Anya and Mark discuss the challenge of saying “no” and setting boundaries, the importance of protecting personal time and capacity, and the difficulty of balancing people-pleasing with being authentic.

Three prompts

1. How easy is it for you to say no?
2. “If I say ‘yes’ to this, what am I saying ‘no’ to?”
3. How can you practice saying no?

Resources

• How the Enneagram System Works
• Convergence Podcast - Balancing Doing and Not Doing
• Rebecca Moore - Breathe practice cards
• The People Pleaser’s First Aid Kit
• The Therapeutic Poet in conversation with Kari Kwinn about boundaries
• Song of Myself, 51 - Walt Whitman
• Four Thousand Weeks: Embrace your limits. Change your life. Make your four thousand weeks count - Oliver Burkeman
• Anya Pearse, Intuitive advisor and her An Hour of Kindness
• Mark Steadman