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What if the feelings we’ve been taught to chase are the very thing keeping us stuck?
Movies, TV shows, and even dating culture itself have trained us to equate instant chemistry, butterflies, and emotional intensity with “real” connection. The music swells, the eye contact hits, and suddenly it feels like fate.
That drama makes for great TV — but not necessarily for healthy, grounded relationships in real life.
In this episode of STRIPPED: Drop Your Patterns, we unpack how pop culture has shaped our expectations of love, why calm clarity often gets overlooked or misunderstood, and how nervous system activation can masquerade as attraction. We explore the difference between chemistry and compatibility, why intensity can feel addictive, and what it actually feels like when a connection is aligned rather than dysregulated.
Most importantly, we ask the question no one really prepares us for:
How do we build relationships that feel safe, mutual, and real — when we’ve been conditioned to expect chaos, longing, and pursuit?
If you’ve ever wondered why the relationships that feel “electric” tend to burn out — and why the steady ones can feel unfamiliar or even boring at first — this episode will shift the way you understand attraction, desire, and connection.
🎧 Listen now — and start noticing what your body has been taught to mistake for love.
Reflect: When you think about the people you’ve felt the strongest chemistry with, was your body calm and clear — or restless, jittery, and on edge? What could it feel like in your body to experience attraction without anxiety?
Reach Out:
Have a pattern or dating question? DM me on LinkedIN or send me an email at [email protected]
Sign up for my bi-weekly newsletter (all value, no fluff + early access to new offerings)!
Let’s dig into the blocks that are keeping you from the love of your life and create a strategy to dissolve them – schedule a complimentary Kickoff Call!
Download my FREE Speed Dating Survival Guide for Men – for when you’ve only got a few minutes to make a connection and you wanna make them count!
Grab your FREE 5 Minute, Pre-Date Pre Game worksheet and step into your next date calm, confident, and magnetic!
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By Rachael JayeWhat if the feelings we’ve been taught to chase are the very thing keeping us stuck?
Movies, TV shows, and even dating culture itself have trained us to equate instant chemistry, butterflies, and emotional intensity with “real” connection. The music swells, the eye contact hits, and suddenly it feels like fate.
That drama makes for great TV — but not necessarily for healthy, grounded relationships in real life.
In this episode of STRIPPED: Drop Your Patterns, we unpack how pop culture has shaped our expectations of love, why calm clarity often gets overlooked or misunderstood, and how nervous system activation can masquerade as attraction. We explore the difference between chemistry and compatibility, why intensity can feel addictive, and what it actually feels like when a connection is aligned rather than dysregulated.
Most importantly, we ask the question no one really prepares us for:
How do we build relationships that feel safe, mutual, and real — when we’ve been conditioned to expect chaos, longing, and pursuit?
If you’ve ever wondered why the relationships that feel “electric” tend to burn out — and why the steady ones can feel unfamiliar or even boring at first — this episode will shift the way you understand attraction, desire, and connection.
🎧 Listen now — and start noticing what your body has been taught to mistake for love.
Reflect: When you think about the people you’ve felt the strongest chemistry with, was your body calm and clear — or restless, jittery, and on edge? What could it feel like in your body to experience attraction without anxiety?
Reach Out:
Have a pattern or dating question? DM me on LinkedIN or send me an email at [email protected]
Sign up for my bi-weekly newsletter (all value, no fluff + early access to new offerings)!
Let’s dig into the blocks that are keeping you from the love of your life and create a strategy to dissolve them – schedule a complimentary Kickoff Call!
Download my FREE Speed Dating Survival Guide for Men – for when you’ve only got a few minutes to make a connection and you wanna make them count!
Grab your FREE 5 Minute, Pre-Date Pre Game worksheet and step into your next date calm, confident, and magnetic!