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Would you categorize yourself as a nice guy? A people-pleaser? A man who's willing to do anything he can to bring a smile to someone else's face or to make their day just a little bit better?

I would!

Now, there's nothing wrong with that. Nothing wrong with helping others and looking out for the needs of others and taking their feelings into account before you say or do anything.

But where there is a problem, is when those niceties you hand out regularly are being handed out because you're so worried about what others are going to think or say about you, that you mostly do these acts of kindness just to be in other's good graces, instead of doing them because you genuinely want to do them.

When you do something nice for someone but deep down you do it with the expectation of getting something in return or you do it because you want the admiration of others or because you don't want to others to think badly of you, is that really coming from a kind and genuine place?

This was me for most of my life, always trying to be the nice guy so I could be liked by everyone. I lived with the fear of someone not liking me or saying anything bad about me, I wanted to be everyone's cup of tea. News flash: you're NEVER going to be EVERYONE's cup of tea. Even MLK, Mother Teresa and Gandhi had haters.

Join me as I sit down with Robert Kandell and we discuss how being a nice guy can have its drawbacks, and how instead we should seek to become real guys. To develop the courage to come into situations and interactions with others as our true, honest and authentic selves instead of trying to be the nice guy just to be liked or trying to be someone we are not.