The biggest challenge human beings have when they or others are going through bad situations, regardless of whether they got themselves into them or find themselves in those positions for whatever reason, is not being quick to write people off. We lack the resilience to fight for them despite the pain, embarrassment or detriment they cause us or that we cause if we are in situations. We lack foresight that our persistent hope can help one/ourselves out or the general knowledge and compassion that we are really just 'going - through' the consequence of bad choices and it is not the end. And we don't get that if someone /we is/are failing in one or two things it doesn't mean we/they are a failure in all things. And i mean also in those exceptional situations and where you can prove you've tried, it still doesn't warrant a write off.