Welcome to part two of Nolo 2.0. In this episode, I’m joined by my husband Noah for an honest conversation about our journey of healing after betrayal. We know how rare it is to find examples of both the betrayer and the betrayed sharing their story together, and we hope this episode provides encouragement and insight for others navigating similar challenges.

Noah Nakell is a Certified Professional Coach who specializes in recovery coaching for men navigating sex addiction, with additional expertise in life coaching for building lives that reflect their true values. Drawing from his own recovery journey, Noah guides men from secrecy and shame toward genuine freedom and connection. He works with clients nationwide through online sessions and offers free consultations to explore how coaching can support your path forward. Learn more at boundlessbravery.com.

In this episode we discuss the difficult realities of betrayal and addiction, the role of toxic shame, and how patriarchal systems contribute to harmful behaviors. We also share strategies for recovery, tips for healing through the holidays, and what it takes to move forward as individuals and as a couple.

Topics Covered:

1. Some of our most recent challenges in healing.
2. Strategies Noah uses to help Lorna with triggers.
3. How Noah's focus on what's important in life has changed since recovery.
4. Noah's advice for men still struggling on their journey of recovery from sex addiction.
5. Noah's questions for Lorna regarding her healing process.
6. Noah's advice for couples recovering from betrayal trauma.

Why This Episode Matters:

• It’s essential to shed light on the topic of sex and porn addiction in order to inspire change.
• By sharing our journey, we hope to show other couples that healing is possible—even after deep hurt.

Resources Mentioned:

Help. Her. Heal. by Carol Juergensen Sheets

Coupleship: Activity Cards for Reestablishing Connection after Sexual Betrayal by Lorna Nakell and Noah Nakell

"An Ordinary Beautiful Marriage," Reflections of Life

Purchase: I Am Reclaiming Me: A Betrayed Partner’s Daily Practice Journal for Women by Lorna Nakell or Coupleship: Activity Cards for Reestablishing Connection after Sexual Betrayal.

Read more about betrayal trauma and feminist issues. 

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