SEASON 3, EPISODE 10

Welcome to Backstage with Randy Phillips - a lighthearted dialogue meant to inspire every heart and home to live a life of purpose.

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

In this powerful Backstage with Randy Phillips season finale, bestselling author, podcaster, and former divorce attorney Toni Nieuwhof shares her journey from toxic shame to true healing—and how even the most impressive résumé can hide deep emotional pain.

With honesty, humor, and faith, Tony opens up about:

• Her marriage struggles with Carey Nieuwhof

• The lie of performance-based identity

• How shame shaped her parenting and faith

• Practical steps to heal through counseling, EMDR, and spiritual practices

• A beautiful breath prayer that’s helped her experience God’s love daily

Whether you’re battling feelings of worthlessness, overachieving to feel accepted, or questioning your value, this conversation will bring freedom, clarity, and hope.

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TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – Welcome to the Season Finale  

00:28 – Meet Tony Newhoff: Lawyer, Pastor’s Wife, Believer  

01:55 – The Unusual Call to Divorce Law  

03:12 – The Story Behind “Before You Split”  

04:24 – A Marriage Restored After Nearly Giving Up  

06:00 – Should Every Marriage Be Saved?  

07:29 – How the Church Can Support Women Better  

09:02 – Helping People Love Being Home  

10:24 – The Home Environment and Family Climate  

11:09 – Why Counseling Belongs in the Church  

12:46 – Bringing Christ’s Light into Therapy  

14:06 – The Resume That Masked Deep Shame  

15:14 – The Hidden Pain of Childhood Abuse  

16:45 – From Self-Sufficiency to Healing  

18:07 – How Shame Shaped Her Parenting  

20:00 – When Independence Feels Like Isolation  

21:38 – Hope for Women Battling Shame  

23:10 – Tools That Helped Tony Heal  

24:02 – Shame, Genesis, and the Voice of the Enemy  

25:34 – Shame Revealed Slowly Over Time  

27:10 – Timeline of Healing and God’s Faithfulness  

28:04 – Meditative Prayer Practice on God’s Love  

29:03 – Breath Prayer: “Be Loved / Beloved”  

30:09 – Why This Practice Has Changed Her Life  

30:48 – Closing Words and Blessing

Music: Alive - Instrumental by Lone Waves

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