The first time I heard the Polish proverb “Not my circus, not my monkeys” I felt quite shocked, but digging deeper, I understood what they were saying. 

I heard it said by a husband about his wife. 

It felt callous. 

It felt cold and I still think it was. 

That he would not want to help engage with the struggles she was facing. 

To say “Not my circus, not my monkeys” is to declare that you don’t want to be dragged into the drama of the other person’s issues—that you’re not getting involved. 

I get the boldness of the statement, and the need at times to be quite cold and confrontational.

Some people seem to want to pass on the drama of their own life to others.

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