Not My Timeline

Well, I have a dating update. And apparently my son decided you all needed to know before I was ready to tell you.
If you listened to my last episode about dating as a widow, you know I've been navigating what dating looks like after losing my husband, raising two little kids, and figuring out what I actually want in a relationship.
And now, there's someone I want to tell you about.
This week, I'm introducing you to the man we're affectionately calling Mr. Hot Convict. I'm sharing how we met, our first date, the conversations that caught me off guard, and why this experience has been a little different from the others.
We also get into my non-negotiables, protecting my children, honoring their dad, and what it means to date someone who understands that grief will always be part of our lives.
I'm also being pretty honest about my tendency to want to run when things start feeling real. Because apparently recognizing your own self-sabotaging behavior and actually doing something about it are two very different things.
I'm not here to tell you how this story ends. I'm just letting you in on where it started.
And trust me, there's more to come. 🤍
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Dating after losing my husband was something I never imagined having to navigate, especially at 29 years old with two young children.
And apparently, everyone has an opinion about when a widow should start dating again.
In this episode, I'm sharing what it actually looked like to put myself back out there. From my very first experiences dating after marriage to my idea of "10 Men, 10 Experiences," dating apps, red flags, and yes, the time I invited a stranger from the internet to an Ella Langley concert.
But beyond the dating stories, this episode is really about learning who I was, what I wanted, and what I was no longer willing to accept.
I talk about the non-negotiables I established, learning to walk away when something didn't feel right, and why anyone who wants to love me has to understand that loving me also means making room for my children's grief.
There isn't a timeline for grief, and there certainly isn't one for finding love again. You can love someone you've lost and still want a future with someone else.
And you don't owe anyone an explanation for when you're ready. 🤍
Content note: This episode discusses suicide and grief.
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Some of the happiest people you know have fought battles you know nothing about.
This week, I'm sitting down with my friend Malike Adigun, founder and CEO of Curate Entertainment. If you know Malike, you know he leads with joy, kindness, and a whole lot of heart. But this conversation goes well beyond the man most people see.
We talk about losing his mother to cancer at 22, building a multimillion-dollar business, raising children while healing your own childhood wounds, and what happens when the person who brings so much joy to others is privately struggling.
Malike opens up about his battle with depression, ADHD, and a moment in his life when he considered ending it. We talk about medication, asking for help, parenting through grief, and why sometimes choosing to get up and try again is the biggest win of the day.
As someone who has lost a loved one to suicide, this conversation meant a lot to me. Not because we have all the answers, but because I believe we need to be having more of these conversations.
We also talk about friendship, redefining success, protecting our families, and what it really means to lead with your heart.
I'm incredibly proud of my friend for sharing this part of his story, and even more proud of him for choosing another day, every single day. 🤍
*Content note: This episode includes discussions of depression, suicidal thoughts, and suicide.*
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There’s a big conversation in the wedding industry about how planners should charge. Flat fee or percentage? My answer is somewhere in the middle.
After 14 years in the industry, I've gone from planning $1,000 weddings to managing million-dollar wedding budgets. And one of the biggest things I've learned is that pricing isn't just about what you charge. It's about understanding your value, protecting your business, and building trust with your clients.
In this episode, I'm sharing exactly how I structure my planning fees for luxury weddings, from the initial retainer and percentage-based estimates to establishing a flat fee once we understand the full scope of the event.
I'm also talking about why I build flexibility into my contracts, how I handle major budget increases, and why I never want my clients questioning whether I'm recommending something because it's right for their wedding or because it increases my fee.
And maybe most importantly, I'm talking about the confidence it takes to charge what you're worth. Because the amount you charge doesn't always reflect how hard you work, but learning to recognize the value of your experience and expertise changes everything.
Whether you're a planner, designer, or another creative business owner, there's no one pricing model you have to follow. Build one that makes sense for your business, your clients, and the value you bring to the table.
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In the wedding industry, we’re taught that our personal lives aren’t our clients’ problem. But what happens when your life changes overnight and pretending everything is fine is no longer an option?
At 29, my husband died by suicide. I had a one-year-old, a three-year-old, a business to run, and a calendar full of weddings, including one just two weeks away.
In this episode, I share the exact message I sent to one of my couples at the time, why I chose to tell my client's before I told the world, and what happened when I stopped trying to separate the person I was grieving as from the planner they had hired.
I also share the story of a wedding weekend that changed the way I see my role entirely, when a medical emergency during rehearsal meant the timeline, the venue, and everything we had planned suddenly didn't matter.
This episode is about grief, professionalism, relationships, and why I no longer believe being great at your job requires hiding the human being behind it.
Because some of the hardest things I’ve lived through personally have made me better at what I do professionally.
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The last first date I went on, I was 21. So when I found myself dating again as a widow, I was terrified. I didn't know what I wanted, who I was outside of being a wife, or how to answer a question as simple as, “Why are you single?”
This week, I'm talking about my first date after loss and everything dating taught me after it. The “10 men, 10 experiences” mindset, learning the difference between someone who's fun and someone who could actually be a partner, and realizing how much I had normalized in my marriage.
I share the question I now ask every man: Who are you on your worst day? Because I don't need someone to fix me. I want someone who has done their own work and can walk alongside me, including through the grief that will always be part of my life.
And for the widows and newly single women, I'm sharing what I wish I knew: set your boundaries, be honest about what you want, don't fill an empty bed just because you're lonely, and let your standards evolve as you figure out who you are now.
Turns out, dating wasn't just teaching me who I wanted. It was teaching me who I was.
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September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, and I have complicated feelings about it.
When you’ve lost someone to suicide, the conversation around awareness and prevention can feel very different.
Especially when you were close enough to the struggle to have asked questions, had hard conversations, and still be the person left trying to make sense of the loss.
This episode is an honest conversation about what this month feels like from the other side of suicide loss, the language we use around it, and what I wish more people understood about the people left behind.
If you know someone who has lost someone to suicide, check on them this month. Sometimes you don’t need the right words. You just need to remember them, too.
Content note: This episode discusses suicide, suicide loss and grief.
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My first guest had to be Andre. He's six, has a lot to say, and apparently knows a lot more about my life than I realized. We talked about what he thinks I actually do for work, me traveling and being away, why Mommy goes to the gym, kindergarten, making good choices, and the kind of man I hope I'm raising him to become. We talked about respecting boundaries, protecting people you love, and why I want him to be the boy who holds other boys accountable too.
And then we went places I wasn't entirely expecting.
Andre talked about his dad. The things he remembers, the things he misses, and even his memory of the last morning Michael dropped him off at school. We talked about Michael's alcoholism, the two and a half years of sobriety we are incredibly proud of him for, and what it looks like to let our kids remember all of their dad, not just how his story ended.
And because apparently nothing is off limits when your six-year-old gets a microphone, we also talked about me dating again.

There are dance breaks. There are very serious six-year-old opinions. There are moments that made me laugh and moments that completely caught me off guard.
This is our life, according to Andre. And I think this might be my favorite episode yet.

My FIRST guest to Not My Timeline is officially here and it's my six-year-old son, Andre.

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Fourteen years in the event industry, and I can honestly say I never built my career by “networking.”
I built it by making friends.
In this episode, I’m talking about how I went from venue sales to private planning, what working on both sides of the industry taught me, and the relationships that ultimately changed my career. The people I once looked at as industry icons became the people I call when I need help, the people I trust with my clients, and eventually, the people who showed up for me when my life completely fell apart.
We talk about learning that I deserved to be in the room, why I’m incredibly transparent with my clients about money, the freedom that comes from working with vendors you genuinely trust, and why I’ve learned to say no to opportunities that don’t feel right. Including, yes, saying no to Snoop Dogg.
This episode is really about something bigger than events. Stop walking into rooms asking what someone can do for your career. Be yourself. Make actual friends. Build relationships with people you would still want in your life if there were absolutely no business attached.
Because looking back, that has probably been the single most important thing I’ve done for my career.

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What does it actually look like to leave your kids for 3 weeks when you’re their only living parent, while also knowing that your career requires you to get on the plane?

In this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of my most recent work trip. How I prepare my kids before I leave, how we stay connected while I’m gone, the guilt that still shows up, and what we do as a family to reconnect and reset when I finally get home.But this trip was bigger than just work.

I was asked to speak on a national panel about parenthood in the event industry, and for the first time in a room full of my peers, I said out loud that I lost my husband to suicide. I talked about becoming a solo parent, navigating significant loss while continuing to build my career, and the very complicated reality of being incredibly proud of the life I’ve built while also acknowledging what it took to get here.
There was a lot of networking. A lot of career highs. A lot of missing my kids. And a moment after the stage I don’t think I could have been ready for.

This episode is about what it actually looks like to keep showing up. For my kids, for my career, and somewhere along the way, learning how to show up for myself too.

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