How is it that two people can live through the same thing and one person experiences it as traumatic and the other person experiences it in a completely different way?  The answer is often a combination of personal history, the language we use to process it, and DNA.  But perhaps the stickier question regarding trauma and relationships is, Why don’t you understand that this was traumatic for me?  It’s such a vulnerable ask and there is a root skill that is absolutely key here:  It requires us to cultivate our “second consciousness”, which is where our relational skills live and the agenda is always connection.  This episode is a rich one.  Listen in as Jules, Rebecca and Vickey offer some important tips and skills for both the sharer and the listener.

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