In today's episode, I'm sharing what I learned from honoring the message of "not yet". Finding the right people to connect with is a beautiful space to be in, and this is the space I found myself in at a recent retreat.

The environment brought out a collaborative energy and an exchange of ideas that lifted everyone up—even those of us who were working towards different goals.

At this retreat, I was determined to start shaping my messaging for a book I'm writing about divorce and marriage, which I hope will promote healing in others. The idea to write a book on this subject came several years ago when my husband and I got remarried and a friend of mine, who happens to be an author, suggested I write about it.

The process of getting remarried to my husband wasn't seamless. When he first approached me about getting back together, I would ask God weekly for guidance. "Do I remarry this man? Is this a must because he's the father of my children?" But I kept getting the same message back, which was simply this: "not yet."

This message turned out to be a blessing. "Not yet" gave me the space I needed to heal. I was continually working on the trauma I'd been through with our divorce, having a baby while single, and the heartache I endured. I also needed to process the good things that came out of it, including the resilience I found in myself.

Eventually, the answer came at me loud and clear. I realized I would always have a deep, infinite love for him, and I'm thankful we were able to have a second chance. Now, I see how "not yet" has played out in writing this book. By waiting, I was able to grow and learn. Now, I can write the book from a place of healing rather than pain.

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